So I was recently telling someone about my personal style evolution and how my fashion preferences have changed over the years. When I was in my 20's, I was really trying to figure out who I was, and in some respects, trying to prove I was an adult. I wanted to declare to the world that I was a strong, independent, and sexy woman...or at least I thought I was. So I pushed the envelope at times, and it was okay for that period in my life - I guess...
I began realizing that sexy means different things to different people, and that sexiness is not necessarily measured by how revealing your clothes are. At this point in my life, I don't always want to/have to put my goods on display. I want to be a little more mysterious and pique curiosity. That's not to say I won't "put it out there" every now and again, but when I do, it's done more purposefully and strategically.
So, I began wondering - what do my peers and friends consider sexy? I spoke to several males and females - to get both sides of the story - and here's what they had to say.HE SAID...
A woman is sexiest when she's wearing...Denim overalls with a plaid shirt, a cocktail dress, anything that highlights her best assets, heels/stilettos, clothes that look effortless, a men's style pant suit with nothing under the jacket, a free-flowing summer dress, fitted jeans with a t-shirt and ponytail, mini skirt w/heels, a deep v-neck party dress, high-waisted fitted dress pants, a button-down shirt with 2 or 3 buttons undone, a curve-hugging black/red dress with nice pumps, high-heeled knee-high boots & glasses.
A woman's sexiest non-physical attribute is...Wit, sense of humor, intelligence, seductive smile, her mind, swag, sex appeal, confidence.
I feel sexiest when wearing...Heels/stilettos, matching lacy satin bra and panty set, curve-hugging dress, mini-skirt, my "king's" dress shirt, a pencil skirt and heels, satin red bra & matching panties, marabou slippers, anything white, jeans, low cut top that exposes my back, anything that falls off the shoulders, lace lingerie with high heels, tailored pants, any kind of pajamas.
My sense of humor, confidence in my short natural hair, my personality, my heart, my mind.
Responses in bold text were repeated by more than one respondent.
I was surprised that the men provided a lot of responses that fell into a more "non-traditional" category - things one may not automatically think of as sexy. The men also provided a wider variety of responses. For the women who responded, "sexy shoes" (high heels/stilettos) was a very popular response, as well as items that scream sexiness (e.g. marabou slippers.)
And then there are those non-physical sexy attributes...those intangibles, that when combined with the right look make one irresistible. So what does this all mean? Well, what is considered sexy is definitely subjective, but what I do know is authenticity is sexy and confidence is very sexy. So ladies, regardless of what you decide to wear, when you present yourself to the world as a force to be reckoned, sexiness is a natural byproduct of that.
Be Fearless. Stay Fashionable. Have Fun!