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Saturday, September 22, 2018

Grateful!

I celebrated a birthday earlier this week and I’m grateful. Although every moment, minute and day provide us with an opportunity for a fresh start, each “trip around the sun” is a good time to acknowledge and appreciate that we’re still here. We all have our share of problems  and it often takes a tragedy, whether we experience it ourselves or witness someone else’s suffering or misfortune, to take stock of what we have and refocus on what’s important.

For those of you who follow fashion and fashion bloggers, you may have heard of Kyrzayda Rodriguez. Kyrzayda was a fashion influencer who inspired many with her amazing sense of style. And based on all of the wonderful things I have been reading about her, she was equally kind and giving as she was fashionable. Kyrzayda recently passed away at a young 40 years old after a battle with stomach cancer, and she leaves behind a phenomenal legacy. You can read more about her here and here.

Kyrzayda first popped up on my radar a few years ago and she was definitely one of my fashion favorites. Beautiful, stylish, shapely, with gorgeous hair - she seemed to have it all. Over the past months you could see the toll the disease was taking on her, but she continued to blog, showcase her stylish looks and provide inspiration to those who followed her journey. How impressive is that?

The courage and honesty that she exhibited during her battle is admirable. I'm sure what I'm writing is nothing that hasn't been already stated, but her story and journey have had a profound impact on me. When I think about the things that I allow to hold me back and some of the trivial things that appear to be obstacles for me and then put that in perspective, it's really making me rethink life.

We only get one shot (that we know of.) We all have an expiration date. We need to make every day count. I'm challenging myself to be better, do more, take more risks, discover my true purpose, and live my life in a way that will make me proud when I look back and reflect.

I also challenge you to do the same.

A couple of shots from my pre-birthday and birthday outfits...


I built my outfit around this iridescent feather skirt that I purchased from Express a few years ago. I had never worn it and decided that it was time...

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I threw on my green peplum top, red thigh-high boots by Steve Madden and gold faux leather jacket from Boo Hoo. I took it over the top with all of these statement pieces in one outfit.

 On my actual birthday, I went to dinner with my family and kept it low key with leggings, a flowy tee, and this cropped white denim jacket - all from Express. My sparkly slouchy boots by Stuart Weitzman completed the look.

Thank you for reading and as always - Be Fearless. Stay Fashionable. Have Fun!

-TFF

Sunday, September 9, 2018

So I bought a pair of "red bottoms..."

Yes - I know it's been almost eight months since I've made a post, but I promise that I've been busy and productive. Busy at work, busy at home, busy with a few fashion-related projects... Sometimes you have to step away from a few things to add some semblance of balance to your life. But I'm back, and will try to post more regularly, but you can always catch me on Instagram (@thefearlessfashionista) and on Facebook.

Okay, so now that I've gotten that out of the way, let's move on to the good stuff. So I think it's pretty widely accepted that Christian Louboutins are THE shoes to wear if you want to make a statement and turn a couple of heads. Their signature "red bottom" is a signal to the world that you've "made it." They're pretty damn expensive, and I think I can safely say that many people who own the shoes have made a couple of sacrifices to acquire them.

Me? I've lusted after Louboutins for a number of years and actually bought a pair several years ago, but decided that they weren't worth the cost. The particular style that I purchased didn't seem terribly sturdy to me and I was in a lot of credit card debt at the time and technically couldn't really afford them - so I returned them.

Fast forward several years - I still love the look of many of the Louboutin styles and understand the allure of the shoes, which are clearly a status symbol, so I said to myself that when I get to a point where I feel like I "deserve" them, I'll buy a pair. I recently got to that point and decided to treat myself. Check out these babies - aren't they delicious?


So I started identifying outfits I can wear with the shoes, began researching ways to protect the soles so the red lacquer finish doesn't wear off, etc. But each and every time I tried on the shoes it was quite an undertaking. Now I'm no punk when it comes to wearing high heels, but this was a little different. First of all, I had to go a full size up because they run really small.

This particular style, the "So Kate" shoe is approximately 4.75." Again, I am no stranger to high heels, but 4.75" is a bit much to tackle and I honestly felt like if I walked too hard in the shoes I would break them. And they hurt like hell. I will say it for the third time - I am no stranger to high heels and I have suffered many a day wearing shoes that are uncomfortable all for the sake of style and fashion - but with the "So Kates," I think I met my match. They hurt my feet as soon as I put them on. There was absolutely no grace period.

And I heard somewhere (not sure if it's true or not) that Christian Louboutin said that he doesn't design shoes for women - he designs them for men. Think about that for a second - so it doesn't matter how much pain we're in, as long as we look good in the shoes for men...

So I told myself I would only wear the shoes when I know I'll be on my feet for a limited time, I would only wear them on special occasions, etc. And it took me a week or two to suddenly snap out of my fog and admit to myself that when I think about the value (my own personal perceived value) of the shoes vs. the cost - it wasn't worth it. (For all of the aforementioned reasons.)


So I returned them.

I like "nice things," but I have to feel that they are worth the cost, and unfortunately these lovely shoes did not make the cut. That's not to say that I will never purchase a pair of red bottoms in the future, but they have to meet my own personal standards. To me, the label, the cost, or notoriety that is associated with clothing/accessories is NOT the driving factor for me. I have to feel good about the purchase.

Thanks for reading!

And as always - Be Fearless. Stay Fashionable. Have Fun!

-TFF