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Thursday, July 25, 2019

The Stylish Introvert

Sometimes when people label you, there is a tendency to accept and internalize those labels. I remember being pretty quiet when I was young and I was labeled "shy." Those who have gotten to know me know that to NOT be the case.

I'm not shy.

I'm an introvert.

I'm selectively social.

It wasn't until recent years, when I began embracing being an introvert. Introverts prefer fewer and more meaningful connections, versus more shallow and frequent interactions with people. I find networking events and other situations where there is forced socializing to be uncomfortable and painful. But I participate when I have to.

I'm generally not the "life of the party," nor am I the type to "work the room." I'm usually "in the cut" observing and surveying the landscape—until I decide I want to open up and reveal who I am...

Why am I telling you all this? Because I've realized that I use fashion as a means to do the talking for me. One of the reasons I wrote my soon-to-be-released book, Find Your Fabulous: The Fearless Fashionista® Approach to Developing and Owning Your Style, is to celebrate the power of fashion and style. When I enter a room or a new and unfamiliar space, I'm able to give people some inkling of what they're going to get. That may vary based on the day and the occasion, but more often than not, I'm making a carefully crafted statement when I get dressed.

I find that people generally don't put as much effort into their appearance as they did in the past. I believe that looking good and pulling yourself together is a way to carve out your own little space in the world—to turn heads and to inspire others.

Here's another image from the book, which accompanies the chapter, "The Illusion of Abundance" This chapter focuses on creating the illusion of having a never-ending wardrobe. 

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Thank you for reading.

Be Fearless. Stay Fashionable. Have Fun!


Lauren

Tuesday, June 25, 2019

Shoes


In my upcoming book, Find Your Fabulous: The Fearless Fashionista® Approach to Developing and Owning Your Style, I include a chapter on shoes that outlines my philosophy regarding the importance of shoes and how they can transform an ensemble.  The more elaborate, the better!

As I eagerly anticipate the launch of the book, I will be sharing background information and bonus content. Below are a few shoe-related tales involving me, told by family and friends.

This first piece is from my cousin Askia. I laugh every time I think of this because it's based on a real conversation we had...

“My cousin Lauren has always been a fashion plate. Even as a child. She made me promise her years ago to kill her on sight if I were to ever see her in sensible shoes. While it’s a promise worth keeping, I seriously doubt it would ever come to pass. I can see Lauren in a senior citizen facility, ambling around with a cane wearing a long gilded robe, plopping down in a comfortable chair then putting her feet up on the ottoman to showcase her red bottom shoes. The old woman still got it.”
-Askia Farrell, author and blogger – mrpunchcar.blogspot.com

Shoes have magical powers, and in this case, they served as the foundation of a friendship...

 “Lauren and I first met several years ago as we both were disembarking from our shared commuter train. It was pouring rain, and in seeing the huge mucky puddle I would have to wade through on the way to the car, immediately took off my shoes. Coming down the walk to my left, Lauren had done the same. Looking at each other we both laughed and said almost simultaneously that our feet could get wet (and muddy)… but not the shoes— never the shoes!
 I appreciate great style and a look put together with panache and creative imagination.  Lauren has all that and her shoes tell the tale: blue suede pumps, leopard skin print, thigh high boots, lively flowered patterns, strappy metallic sandals—that girl can even rock a pair of Crocs!
 I don’t even remember what I was wearing that day coming off the train, but when two women bond over shoes—that’s a friendship that will carry on!”
-Belena C., travel buddy

I remember that day vividly. I had on a pair of Carlos Santana sky high purple satin paisley pumps, and there was no way I was going to let those babies get messed up in the rain...

This story was shared by Cathy, a former colleague. This took place on that awful day, September 11, 2001. That day will be seared into my brain forever. It is also memorable for another reason...

“I worked with Lauren for years, and she was always known for her beautiful clothes, sense of style, and most of all her shoes. Each year on September 11th, a funny story comes to mind. That day was filled with so much emotion...we were in our office in midtown Manhattan office when the planes hit the towers. We knew we had to leave the building but none of us could get home due to the bridges and tunnels being closed. We were lucky to have a friend who lived in the city offer us shelter in her apartment, which was on the Upper East Side. Most of us put on comfy shoes to make the long walk, but Lauren never changed her high heels - she was a trooper and walked many miles with us in her high heels and never complained or missed a beat. After many hours, when things were calmer, we had to walk back towards midtown, and after much convincing she borrowed a pair of sneakers from a friend...I think it was the only time, I saw her like that.”
-Cathy S.,  former colleague

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This image is one of the many fantastic illustrations included in the book created by Katarina Mijatovic


Stay tuned for more content and updates. And as always,
Be Fearless. Stay Fashionable. Have Fun!

-Lauren

Tuesday, June 11, 2019

"Find Your Fabulous" - The Back Story...

I've wanted to write a book for many years. To me, it seemed like one of the ultimate accomplishments a person could achieve. I had no idea what I wanted to write about or how I would get started, but the desire was there.

I've included a part of my story below, through the lens of questions I've been asked during the writing process.

How did you decide what you were going to write about?

I started my blog, The Fearless Fashionista®, to provide myself with a forum to write about fashion and style, post pictures of my outfits, and develop my fashion point of view. Over the years, as I began building up content and speaking to women about fashion and style, I realized I was "writing my book", but I still didn't think I was ready. "I don't have enough content," is what I told myself. I also made up other excuses, but my aunt, an author and career coach, pushed me off the ledge on January 1, 2017. I mentioned to her that I wanted to write a book, but didn't think I was ready, etc. etc.

I don't remember exactly what she said, but she made me feel like I could do it, regardless of my doubts—and I started "writing" my book later that day.

I put the word "writing" in quotes, because my first step was to cull content from my existing blog posts and workshops that I conducted. I already had a framework, but just needed to organize the content in a logical way and fill in any gaps. It sounds simple enough, but it wound up taking me over two years to complete. I had periods where I would write consistently, but then there were periods where I wouldn't touch the project for a month or two and then I would get back on track.

I don't consider myself to be a writer, but I do like to write. From a technical perspective, there are areas where I need to improve, but if I waited until I perfected the art of writing, the book would have never gotten finished. So my journey as a "writer" will continue.

How did you decide on a name for your book?

The name of my book is 'Find Your Fabulous: The Fearless Fashionista Approach to Developing and Owning Your Style." I chose that name because I want women to realize that "fabulous" is a subjective term. What is fabulous to me, may be different than what fabulous means to someone else. Every woman has to decide for herself what her level of comfort is in terms of style and fashion. I include my four step approach to getting dressed that helps define the process of selecting clothes that flatter your figure and developing a signature style that works for you. Once you develop your style, you have to wholeheartedly embrace it. Style is something very personal and once you accept who you are, it becomes much easier to express yourself through the clothing you wear.

What can we expect when reading your book?

I include some of the basics—fashion fundamentals that you may or may not be familiar with. Just like with building a house, you have to start with a sturdy foundation. That's the approach I took with my book. I also include personal stories and experiences to put some of the content in context. I found a fabulous artist who created the illustrations for my book. She was able to bring my vision to life, while adding her artistic point of view, which I absolutely love.

Below is one of the images that will be included in my book. Anyone who knows me knows I love a tulle skirt. This is an example of art and life imitating each other.


I'm having the interior formatting and cover design done by Humming Soul Creative, so the layout and presentation of the book is as fabulous as the content.

The book will be available this summer, and up until its release, I will continue to share related content and information.

Thank you for reading, and please visit me again soon.

Be Fearless. Stay Fashionable. Have Fun!

-Lauren




Monday, May 27, 2019

Exciting News!

Hello friends and fellow fashionistas. It has been quite a while since I last posted and my social media presence has been pretty scarce—but not without good reason. I've been working on a special project for a while and I'm getting closer to the finish line, so I haven't had as much time to create content over the past several months.

I'm going to be publishing a book this summer!!! The book is titled Find Your Fabulous: The Fearless Fashionistaรข Approach to Developing and Owning Your Style.

I've developed a four-step process that breaks down the fundamentals of selecting clothes that flatter your body, techniques to help you increase the appearance of your wardrobe, and I've also included money-saving tips to help you keep more money in your wallet, while you're on your journey to finding your fabulous! The book is also peppered with personal stories and lessons I've learned during my fashion journey.

I'm putting the final touches on the book and will be revealing tidbits and bonus content in the coming weeks, but the first order of business is to enlist your help. I'm trying to decide on the final cover for the book.

Let me know if you're #teamtutu or #teamfashionista.



Cover art by Humming Soul Creative.


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Thank you!

And as always, Be Fearless. Stay Fashionable. Have Fun!

Lauren,
Chief Fashion Officer of The Fearless Fashionistaรข