Last Saturday, I attended a Philly Fashion Week show. I'm proud of myself because I shopped my closet and remixed a couple of pieces to create a new look. I layered my lack polka dot sheer dress underneath a faux leather skirt from Banana Republic that I bought a couple of years ago.
So I bought these lovely Sam Edelman over-the-knee boots with flower embroidery earlier this year at the end of the winter season. I got them for a fraction of their original price and I’ve been waiting for the opportunity to wear them more consistently. You know how much I love a good sale and I rely on what I call the “On/Off” strategy to score great deals. I like to make purchases when they’re “on” sale or “off” season. It’s not an earth-shattering strategy, but it can be quite effective when you’re looking to catch a great deal. One of the risks is your size is no longer available, but in some cases the reward is worth the risk.
I've compiled a list of the top ten fashion guidelines that I keep in mind while getting dressed. Check them out!
The Fearless Fashionista's Top Ten
1.Get dressed with intent!
Don’t wait until the last minute to
throw something together. Be purposeful in how you approach getting dressed,
and whatever you decide to wear, don’t forget to throw on a heavy dose of
confidence or nobody will believe you.
2.Do a final check before you leave the
Give yourself a once-over – preferably
in the natural light using a full length mirror to make sure your makeup is not
too harsh, your clothes aren’t see-through, there are not hanging hems or
3.Don’t be a slave to fashion
Invest your efforts into cultivating
a signature style. Whether it’s minimalist or more ostentatious – develop it
and own it.
Everything is not for everybody. Just
because a garment is made in your size, it doesn’t mean you should wear it.
Determine what looks good on you. and use that as a gauge as to whether or
not you wear something.
5.Be an original and not a "style stealer"
We all get inspired by someone or
something, but blatant fashion
forgery is a big NO! Always put your own spin on things and use
inspiration to help you be the best version of yourself.
I wore this dress for the first time ten years ago. It's so pretty and has been sitting in my closet since then just waiting to be worn again. In this age of social media, people are a lot more conscious of the outfits they wear and the frequency in which they wear them. Admittedly, I try to space out how often I wear my garments; however, I LOVE to challenge myself to restyle my pieces in different ways. I don't have the budget or desire to wear an outfit just once and never repeat it.
Now waiting ten years to wear this dress again is a bit extreme, but I initially wore it to one of my wedding-related events, and just didn't think about wearing it again until recently.
I celebrated a birthday earlier this week and I’m grateful. Although every moment, minute and day provide us with an opportunity for a fresh start, each “trip around the sun” is a good time to acknowledge and appreciate that we’re still here. We all have our share of problems and it often takes a tragedy, whether we experience it ourselves or witness someone else’s suffering or misfortune, to take stock of what we have and refocus on what’s important.
For those of you who follow fashion and fashion bloggers, you may have heard of Kyrzayda Rodriguez. Kyrzayda was a fashion influencer who inspired many with her amazing sense of style. And based on all of the wonderful things I have been reading about her, she was equally kind and giving as she was fashionable. Kyrzayda recently passed away at a young 40 years old after a battle with stomach cancer, and she leaves behind a phenomenal legacy. You can read more about her here and here.
Kyrzayda first popped up on my radar a few years ago and she was definitely one of my fashion favorites. Beautiful, stylish, shapely, with gorgeous hair - she seemed to have it all. Over the past months you could see the toll the disease was taking on her, but she continued to blog, showcase her stylish looks and provide inspiration to those who followed her journey. How impressive is that?
The courage and honesty that she exhibited during her battle is admirable. I'm sure what I'm writing is nothing that hasn't been already stated, but her story and journey have had a profound impact on me. When I think about the things that I allow to hold me back and some of the trivial things that appear to be obstacles for me and then put that in perspective, it's really making me rethink life. We all have different goals, but I think many of us strive to make a positive impact on peoples' lives in some way. Although Kyrzayda lost her life at a young age, she impacted so many...
We only get one shot (that we know of.) We all have an expiration date. We need to make every day count. I'm challenging myself to be better, do more, take more risks, discover my true purpose, and live my life in a way that will make me proud when I look back and reflect.
I also challenge you to do the same!
A couple of shots from my pre-birthday and birthday outfits...
I built my pre-birthday outfit around this iridescent feather skirt that I purchased from Express a few years ago. I had never worn it and decided that it was time...
I threw on my green peplum top, red thigh-high boots by Steve Madden and gold faux leather jacket from Boo Hoo. I took it over the top with all of these statement pieces in one outfit. Animal print clutch by Love Cortnie.
On my actual birthday, I went to dinner with my family and kept it low key with leggings, a flowy tee, and this cropped white denim jacket - all from Express. My sparkly slouchy boots by Stuart Weitzman completed the look.
Thank you for reading and as always - Be Fearless. Stay Fashionable. Have Fun!
Yes - I know it's been almost eight months since I've made a post, but I promise that I've been busy and productive. Busy at work, busy at home, busy with a few fashion-related projects... Sometimes you have to step away from a few things to add some semblance of balance to your life. But I'm back, and will try to post more regularly, but you can always catch me on Instagram (@thefearlessfashionista) and on Facebook.
Okay, so now that I've gotten that out of the way, let's move on to the good stuff. So I think it's pretty widely accepted that Christian Louboutins are THE shoes to wear if you want to make a statement and turn a couple of heads. Their signature "red bottom" is a signal to the world that you've "made it." They're pretty damn expensive, and I think I can safely say that many people who own the shoes have made a couple of sacrifices to acquire them.
Me? I've lusted after Louboutins for a number of years and actually bought a pair several years ago, but decided that they weren't worth the cost. The particular style that I purchased didn't seem terribly sturdy to me and I was in a lot of credit card debt at the time and technically couldn't really afford them - so I returned them.
Fast forward several years - I still love the look of many of the Louboutin styles and understand the allure of the shoes, which are clearly a status symbol, so I said to myself that when I get to a point where I feel like I "deserve" them, I'll buy a pair. I recently got to that point and decided to treat myself. Check out these babies - aren't they delicious?
So I started identifying outfits I can wear with the shoes, began researching ways to protect the soles so the red lacquer finish doesn't wear off, etc. But each and every time I tried on the shoes it was quite an undertaking. Now I'm no punk when it comes to wearing high heels, but this was a little different. First of all, I had to go a full size up because they run really small.
This particular style, the "So Kate" shoe is approximately 4.75." Again, I am no stranger to high heels, but 4.75" is a bit much to tackle and I honestly felt like if I walked too hard in the shoes I would break them. And they hurt like hell. I will say it for the third time - I am no stranger to high heels and I have suffered many a day wearing shoes that are uncomfortable all for the sake of style and fashion - but with the "So Kates," I think I met my match. They hurt my feet as soon as I put them on. There was absolutely no grace period.
And I heard somewhere (not sure if it's true or not) that Christian Louboutin said that he doesn't design shoes for women - he designs them for men. Think about that for a second - so it doesn't matter how much pain we're in, as long as we look good in the shoes for men...
So I told myself I would only wear the shoes when I know I'll be on my feet for a limited time, I would only wear them on special occasions, etc. And it took me a week or two to suddenly snap out of my fog and admit to myself that when I think about the value (my own personal perceived value) of the shoes vs. the cost - it wasn't worth it. (For all of the aforementioned reasons.)
So I returned them.
I like "nice things," but I have to feel that they are worth the cost, and unfortunately these lovely shoes did not make the cut. That's not to say that I will never purchase a pair of red bottoms in the future, but they have to meet my own personal standards. To me, the label, the cost, or notoriety that is associated with clothing/accessories is NOT the driving factor for me. I have to feel good about the purchase.
Thanks for reading!
And as always - Be Fearless. Stay Fashionable. Have Fun!
I've been blogging for a number of years now, and I can't say that I ever properly introduced myself to you all. My
name is Lauren, but you can call me “The Fearless Fashionista.” I’m a corporate
catwalker from 9-5, but when I show up to non-corporate events, that’s when I
really like to amp up the fashion factor. Style and fashion have always fascinated
me, and I think they’re actually embedded in my DNA. And although my life has
taken me down a non-fashion-related path, I have decided to take control of my
destiny and start immersing myself in fashion and style-related activities. In
addition to being a chic corporate chick, I’m a personal style blogger, a
t-shirt designer, and I conduct workshops to educate women on the importance of
“looking the part.”
have early memories of dressing up, wearing my mother’s high heels, and rummaging
through her cosmetics stash. When you’re young, you can’t always articulate why
you’re drawn to certain things, but as I’ve gotten older, I began realizing why
I’m so enamored with aesthetics. There is power associated with presenting a
strong and memorable image to the world - an image that tells a story, makes a
statement, and serves as a silent method of communicating.
are many ways for people to express themselves – through spoken word, artistic
creations, music and song, writing, etc. But using your visual identity to send
a message is one of the only ways you can make an immediate impression by just
showing up. Making a strong style statement can have a profound impact on
someone you may never even know exists. A person can you see from across a
room, on a crowded subway, or at an event, and you can shape the way they see
life, the world, or even themselves.
way you present yourself DOES matter, and in a world that often celebrates
the superficial – it’s important to learn how to use that to your advantage. I’m
a huge proponent of being equally stylish and smart – you must have something substantial
to offer underneath that pretty packaging. But most first impressions are based
on visuals – and those impressions are formed in a matter of seconds. Taking
the time to pull yourself together shows that you’re looking to beautify the
world in some way, and that's a total boss move - because let’s be honest, the world
you may be wondering how I became “The Fearless Fashionista.” When I was younger, I
fantasized about growing up, getting a job, and dressing up every day. I just
wanted to look cute and be stylish. I secretly wanted to become a model, but
for whatever reason, that never came to fruition. Despite my failed fantasy of
walking the Paris runways, or gracing the covers of high fashion magazines, my
love of style and fashion has only grown stronger over the years. I’ve
heard people say that you should shop for the life that you have, but I must
confess that I shop for the life I think I was meant to live. I guess I’ve
bought into all the subliminal and overt messaging that targets girls and
women, promoting glitz and glamour. Or maybe I was just born this way.
I'll buy a full length sequins gown, a fishtail bridesmaid
skirt, or a tutu, just in case some type of fancy event comes up - I’ll be
prepared. I have items hanging in my closet, just begging to be worn, but
they’re just a little too fancy for the life that I’m living right now. When I get
desperate enough, I’ll figure out a way to force one of those pieces into the
rotation, by dressing them down a little, or organizing some type of
get-together, just so I’ll have a reason to get some use out of them.
Throughout my travels I have
won a number of fictitious awards, including “Best Dressed on the Floor” in my
office, “Best Dressed on the Train”, “Best Dressed in the Building”, etc. - and
although I haven’t gotten any trophies or monetary prizes in conjunction with
those awards, I’ll take them. That means people are looking and paying
attention. And once you get peoples’ attention - that can lead to bigger and
Just remember that people are studying and taking notes, so give them something
worthwhile to look at!
Oh, and tonight the NAACP awards are airing. Just like the Golden Globes, I never received my invitation, but I dressed up for the occasion nevertheless. This is a dress that I bought almost 6 years ago for a milestone birthday. And I'm happy to say, it still fits.